Stop the comparing, seriously...

Note that this post that not apply to ALL parents, just some, but still the number is quite big.

Yes I know I said I wouldn't blog for awhile since like...yesterday? But things happen. I saw someone post a picture on twitter showing this kid, who's 9 years old, being able to score an A for O Level Maths. Then the first thing I think about is all the parents starting to compare their own kids with this kid, and then the aunties and uncles kids with their own kid, and the neighbors dog with their own kid.

What's WITH THIS COMPARING SHIT?! YOU TIHNK LIKE THIS YOUR KID WILL SUDDENLY GROW SMARTER AND START SCORING ALL FUCKING A's isit? The only you give them here is freaking stress and pressure to perform for fear of letting the parents down. Honestly if all the parents just stop comparing maybe there wouldn't be so many emo kids in Singapore or so many cases of suicide. Parents always say "I give you pressure for your own good, so you will be motivated". Please, there's a BIG HUGE GIGANTIC TITANIC difference between pressure and just purely forcing their kids to perform.

Good pressure is when the parents tell their kids "I think you can do better than this" or "Why didn't you put more effort? I know you could have done better!". THIS is good pressure, encouragement but at the same time putting a certain amount of pressure so that the kid won't lepak everyday at home on facebook and twitter. BAD pressure is when parents start comparing the kid with their siblings, neighbors, cousins, cousins-in-law, friends, and the friends cousin also. You think it helps? No, it just makes the kid think that they suck and are a failure in life. Then they start getting all emo and shit and slash themselves. When parents find out they say

"OI YOU SIAO AH SLASH YOURSELF FOR WHAT YOU VERY STRESS MEH?"

 No lah mummy/daddy I very bored mah homework all finish le wanted to try play with penknife. YOU DONT SAY? Of course stress lah the way parents put it across to kids is that you should score better than everyone else for me to actually be satisfied.

Screw that. School teaches us CME(Civics and Moral Education), for what? In the end all the shit about don't compare yourself with others, dont be influenced by your peers, just be yourself, you are who you are...are all thrown into the dustbin. Why cos parents don't care about that shit. They just want to say what they think, and they don't know how their kid is feeling, simply because they think they aren't giving their kids any pressure, or even if they are, a manageable amount.

So what I'm trying to say here is, don't let your parents force you to be what you aren't or force you to go beyond your own best. Sure they are right when they want you to try harder, that is if you are actually able to do better but are not putting in all your effort, that is perfectly alright. Because parents being parents want the best for their kids. But what I hate and can't accept is when parents push their kids beyond what they can do, and then drama starts to happen, but sadly only the kid feels it, and they're stuck in their own war.

No one else feels it but them. They think they are worthless, and they start abusing themselves because of the excessive pressure on them. I just want to say to all kids out there, do your best, but don't get put down by others remarks, because you are you and they are they. If we were all smart there would be no need for exams.

Peace out.
@livinginsg